Families have tensions. What’s interesting about our family is that
we seem now to have fewer. Let me get this straight before I go any further. I would not wish this to have happened, not ever. But it has, and now we’re a few months down the road. I have some new perspectives. Perhaps for the first time there’s something positive in what is coming out.
So, tensions.Take the members of a normal, functioning family. They love each other and are connected by that gossamer like bond of family. That gossamer cord. Parent to child, parent to parent, mother to father, sister to brother, sibling to step parent; these many and various bonds form the intricate web of familiar interconnectedness. Each and every day brings stresses and strains and each and every day those bonds may stretched til taut by dispute and equally they might be be slackened flaccid by lack of attention. Family life is the edd and flow of tensions in our web as we divide our energies between those we love around us.
I was a father and a husband, now I am just a father. The web is simpler now.
Whilst I think of her all the time I don’t need to think of her needs anymore. It’s just the girls’ and mine. I’m just a dad.
The bonds between me and the girls grow thicker. And sure, in time, there’ll be tensions new between us. But in the meantime I find that life is less complicated than it was. I wouldn’t have asked for it, I don’t care for it, I’d switch back in a breath. But now it’s here I’ll try to embrace it. Simpler, and sadder.
And in that instant I’m instantly aware of the severed cord that trails behind me. Ah well. It was pretty good up until then.